When we forgive, we are boldly taking back the control from the ego mind, whose dictum is “Seek and do NOT find.” We recognise that that we have judged in another as being hurtful or wrong is indeed something we have condemned within ourselves. By forgiving those qualities within ourselves, we are compelled to forgive those who similarly suffer from the same afflictions.
When we forgive, we recognise that it is us who needs to change. If another’s behaviour creates an unhealthy relationship, the only responsibility we have is to let them know, and if they continue to betray that bond and trust, to do what we must do to prevent ourselves from being put in that situation again. By maintaining the problem is outside, and thus its solution as well, we are fulfilling the ego’s purpose of keeping the problem from the Creative Intelligence within our minds to correct the mistaken thought of separation.
The Course in Miracles talks about the potential for healing that exists within every seemingly hurtful experience:
“You are not trapped in the world you see, because its cause can be changed. This change requires, first, that the cause be identified and then [second) let go, so that [third] it can be replaced. The first two steps in this process require your cooperation. The final one does not.”
Forgiveness is the mental, emotional and/or spiritual process of ceasing to f…
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Drawing on the essential teachings of the great spiritual teachers, philosophers and freethinkers throughout time, Khenpo Gurudas Śunyatananda (retired Archbishop Francis-Maria Salvato, O.C.) has been regarded as a provocative, revolutionary “voice of reason” within the field of religion and spirituality, since 1983. Having the distinction of being one of the few openly non-theistic, openly-gay and post-denominational thinkers ever to serve as Bishop-Exarch and spiritual leader of the autocephalic Eastern Catholic Franciscans in North America, Gurudas is the author of more than 600 articles, eight books and currently serves as the spiritual advisor for a non-theistic, intentional spiritual community, The Spiritus Project. He can be reached at: http://dharmadudeunplugged.com
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